Who is our worst enemy? What is our hell? Is it other people that hurt you? If Bob says you are an asshole, will it hurt you? If Bob tells your friend that they are ugly, will they get offended? What if I told you your friend, didn't care about being called ugly, but you take it personally when Bob tell you mean things. What's the difference between you and your friend?
The answer is that your friend either doesn't care, or has understood that the real bully in the story, is herself. Your friend refuses to accept Bob's comment, she knows that she is the one who decides if she wants to be hurt by them or not.
You, on the other hand, take Bob's comments to heart. To be hurt by a comment shows that you are in agreement with those comments. You agree with Bob that you are ugly, smelly, and asshole, and you are the one who let lets it hurt you. When Bob attacks you, you decide in which way you want to control it.
You control the degree of hurt that you want to apply to yourself. Two people can undergo the same event and be differently affected. One person can be punched and remember it for the rest of their life, the other one could forget in the next 10 minuets.
When you are in pain, you are in a battle with yourself. In the end, you decide if you want to be affected by the hurt. You decide the force of the pain, as well as the length of the pain.
We are in a constant battle with ourselves to attract and repel our feelings. It's not the others who control our hell's, it is ourselves. Imagine if someone close to you said something mean. Now imagine someone in the streets telling you the exact same thing. Same action, different results, right?
This proves that you can control the pain, as the pain from someone who is close hurts more than the pain a stranger can deliver. But why is this!?
People who hurt others aren't well in their own minds, want your attention, or maybe they have other reasons. I don't judge them, maybe I'd be the same way had I lived their lives, but whatever, the point is, don't let people who are not mentally ill bring you down. You can control the pain that others inflict on you.
If you are ever attacked, don't blame the attacker, ask yourself;
“Why are you making me suffer? Why are you letting what another said to me, hurt me?”
To be hurt by Bob means you are agreeing with Bob. NEVER AGREE WITH BOB! He's dealing with his own problems, and the only way to vent is to try and hurt you.
Agree with yourself, that you are beautiful, you do love yourself.
We are our own enemies, not the world around us.
You are in control. You decide the relationship you have with the outside world.
You are your own all powerful, almighty God.
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